What Can You Do to Support Someone Who has Been Sexually Assaulted?
When someone tells you that she has been sexually assaulted, she is being very courageous. She is trusting you will support and believe her. She has chosen to tell you because she is hoping that you may help her to feel safe and supported. Disclosing sexual assault or abuse can be very difficult.
What can you do to help?
There are many things you can do to support someone who has been sexually assaulted. You can:
Accept what she tells you. Accept the fact that the assault/abuse happened. Understand that it is not her or your fault.
Believe her. Tell her you believe her and that it was not her fault
Let her know she is not to blame
Affirm that she is not alone
Respect her right for privacy
Encourage her to talk to someone she trusts
Listen non-judgmentally. Suggest options and actions (supportive, legal and other assistance), but let her decide what action to take
Encourage her to get medical attention. Her health is very important
Allow her to talk about the incident, but don't force the discussion
Respect and understand that she may become temporarily distant from loved ones
Take the initiative to maintain communications with her
Moderate your natural tendencies to become overprotective